Ask Nicola; What Can You Do About Distorted Body Image?

We all deal with distorted body image to some extent.

We all deal with distorted body image to some extent.

We all deal with distorted body image to some extent.  I’ve found that opening up to friends about it really helps as well as listening to how others I trust view me.  It all gets better over time.   We just keep working on being the best we can be; mind, body, and spirit.

 

What can you do about having a distorted body image?

  • Do we all struggle with distorted body image to some extent?
  • Will talking about how you feel help?
  • Is it possible for you remove the emotional baggage associated with your body?
  • You can turn this into a positive mindset that works for you.
  • Find your own positive, self loving, self talk that is motivating for you.
  • Opening up to others can help.

 

Nicola and John talk about what to do to about having a distorted body image.

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Ask Nicola; Can Food Be a Reward?

Eating healthy and staying fit is a gift to yourself.

Eating healthy and staying fit is a gift to yourself.

 

Can food be a reward?

  • Should food be used as a reward or punishment?
  • Why do we say “I deserve this” for a food treat?
  • Will some of this behavior make healthy eating seem like deprivation?
  • Eating well is taking care of yourself and nourishing yourself.

 

  • Is rewarding yourself with food an excuse?
  • Is rewarding yourself with food opening yourself for overindulge?
  • How do you feel after reward yourself with food?

 

  • It is seductive and dangerous.
  • Are you seeing your fitness program as a punishment?
  • Or is your program a gift to yourself?

 

  • It should be.
  • exercising is caring for yourself.
    • Do the best you can for yourself.
    • I deserve to be fit.
    • I deserve to be healthy.
    • It is a daily practice.

Nicola and John talk about what to do to change your mindset if you need to.

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Ask Nicola; Closet Eating

You are not alone in this.  Find a friend or someone you can trust.

You are not alone in this. Find a friend or someone you can trust and get it out in the open so you can face it.

What can you do about closet eating?

Overeating usually happen in two major situations:

1) When you are influenced socially.

2) When you are alone.

Today we will focus when you are alone.  You are facing yourself.  This is a moment with an opportunity to learn or face why you might overeat.  What can you do about this?

This is a vulnerable time.  It’s a common theme to hide and eat.  People do this because they don’t want to be seen or face the shame of being overweight.  It increases a vicious circle.  Shame is usually driving the emotion.  It is a very painful place.  You can be stuck in this unhappy and shameful place.

The goal would be to eat in a similar way whether you are eating alone or in a social setting.

What is the first step in getting away from shame in secretive eating?

Admit it.  Get out of denial about it.

Then you can face it.

You are not alone in this.  Find a friend or someone you can trust.  Write a journal.

Nicola and John talk about what to do about closet eating.

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Ask Nicola; Emotional Eating vs Emotional OVER-Eating

 

The thing to remember is that the stress and the need to want to eat a treat that makes you feel good; it is a moment.   Let yourself have the moment.  Factor it in because you are human.

The thing to remember is that the stress and the need to want to eat a treat that makes you feel good; it is a moment. Let yourself have the moment. Factor it in because you are human.

Emotional Eating vs Emotional OVER-Eating

Everyone emotionally eats.  Sometimes it happens like clockwork.  It might be from certain events that cause stress.

The thing to remember is that the stress and the need to want to eat a treat that makes you feel good; it is a moment.   Let yourself have the moment.

You do not have to keep eating to the point of overeating.  Slow down.  Take a moment to enjoy the food.

Have the chocolate.  Pay attention.  Give yourself the permission to have that chocolate and then just have it.  You can always have more again next time.

Do not deny it.  It needs to be factored in.  Plan on it.  Know it is going to happen. Remind yourself that you can have it again.

Be mindful of the emotion at the time.  You have not do beat yourself up about it.  You can contain it.  You can learn to manage the moments.

Every human being has these cravings and urges.  It doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you.  It does not mean you have to give up your goals.  Factor in that you are human. Give yourself some flexibility.

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Ask Nicola; Identify Emotional Eating

 

Kimberley and I enjoy our homemade ice cream sundaes.

Kimberley and I enjoy our homemade ice cream sundaes.  Eating at a social event is not necessarily a pattern that is controlling you.

Identify Emotional Eating

Do you think that you’re overeating or eating high caloric food simply because you happen to “like” food or have a “sweet tooth”?

That’s a common mistaken belief.

It’s more likely that you are overeating because of your emotions. Emotional eating is not restricted to people who are out of control bingers.

Whenever you are eating for reasons other than hunger, it is your emotions that are driving your behavior, not “love” of food or your “sweet tooth.”

Learn how you can identify this drive to eat for reasons other than physical hunger and take charge of it.

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Ask Nicola; Perfectionist Mindset

I bet if each of us looked as perfect as Alisha does in these pictures we would all still find something wrong with ourselves.  Most of us need to learn to overcome the perfectionist mindset.

I bet if each of us looked as perfect as Alisha does in these pictures we would all still find something wrong with ourselves. Most of us need to learn to overcome the perfectionist mindset.

The Perfectionist Mindset

Do you think that you always need to be better? That you’re often not happy — at least for long — with what you have achieved?

This is the perfectionism mindset: when nothing is enough for very long. Perfectionism often derails and sabotages success.

Find out how you can overcome perfectionism….

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Ask Nicola; How do you deal with social pressure after you achieve fitness?

Once you achieve your fitness goals some people have negative reactions.  You must decide what you want for yourself and fight to keep it.

Once you achieve your fitness goals some people have negative reactions. You must decide what you want for yourself and fight to keep it.

How do you deal with social pressure after you achieve fitness?

We are social creatures. Although losing weight and getting fit are personal choices, it does impact us socially because it changes our appearance. The world will respond to our transformation in a variety of ways–some positive and some negative. When people around you are not being supportive or even critical of your transformation, you need to break free from their their negativity and own your own power.

We’ll discuss the reasons why people can have such varied and negative responses to your transformation and how to become immune to it.

Nicola

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Ask Nicola; What is Self Sabotage?

We all step out of the gate strong. What happens when you encounter all the emotional challenges of life?

We all step out of the gate strong. What happens when you encounter all the emotional challenges of life?

Do you have a self-sabotage point?

When it comes to dieting and fitness, you likely find that it is easy to get out the gate but then you lose momentum and drive fizzles. Before you know it, despite the best intentions, self-sabotage kicks in. You have difficulty sustaining your goals. Willpower only gets you so far. You need to deal with the real reasons that you are sabotaging to sustain change and keep momentum alive.

In todays podcat we will dive into what the underlying reasons are for self sabotage and why it seems to happen at the same time over and over again.

Nicola

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